Yeah, snazzy title, isn't it? Just grabs your attention straight-away, I would imagine. That is if your attention isn't already upon any pre-occupations regarding sex. The thing is, not everyone likes it the same, which is in itself keeping it interesting and lively. The bad part is that not everyone is going to be EXACTLY what the other partner wants.
They say you shouldn't build a relationship around sex. That's probably a good idea, since none of us really have the stamina to go non-stop. While there might be or have been some great marathons that make us proud, it's usually going to lose some of that original enticement. It's possible that some people even burn out on it, just like they can at work or at school.
I'm no Dr. Ruth or Dr. Phil or any kind of degreed expert in the field of human interpersonal relations. There aren't any certificates on the wall nor any good examples of successful relationships in the past. So keep in mind that any advice really isn't backed with a 100% money-back satisfactional guarentee. Heck, even if goes EXACTLY how we want it, there is no way to insure that. There is going to be one little itty bitty detail that will detract from it, whether the pillow talk didn't last long enough or that one partner went to sleep too soon... to any noises or words emitted during the actual act. Yeah, some of you are loud lovers. Maybe even a few grunt and moan a little bit. Is sighing even proper etiquette in after-sex glowing? Oh... and maybe keep in mind one or both will need that cigarette. Exactly while is still very unclear to me on that last item.
But the fact remains that we get urges. We see something we really like or that set's something off inside of us. Maybe it's a timer going off saying it's suitable for pollenation. Or perhaps it is the animal inside raging to get out and devour the tasty morsel in view. I'll leave it up to you to decide if that's supposed to describe the male or female gender.
Sex is in fashion. It's popular world-wide, but like any other fashion, there are those that don't feel comfortable with their "fashion sense". Doesn't matter if that is the case, because those tastes differs like it does for clothes. Sometimes, it even seems like partners are changed as often as stylish outfits, maybe even depending upon the occasion. Maybe you know someone you'd hang around with in private, but wouldn't take out into public or even introduce to your closest friends?
Being analytical may not be the best thing in the sexual mix either. Let's be honest, if we thought about everything we did or are doing, we wouldn't be letting that natural flow occur. Communication is pretty important, if you want to please your partner, but... it goes beyond those moans and grunts that were mentioned earlier. And it's probably a good idea to find out first if those names you are calling them is helping or hurting.
Safety is always mentioned as a concern in today's age. Let's face it, you can't just go to the bar or disco... or even the laundrymat or gym... and take some stranger home and assume it's okay. Have to consider the risks involved. Maybe that's why marriage will still have it's place. It reduces the number of partners for each spouse. Abstinence is the only true safe measure, but it's not going to be like that forever.
Now we get to the meat of the subject. What is there about sex that has our fascination? Are we seeking intimacy? Wanting acceptance or human contact? Maybe just needing to get it out of our system and get it over with? And when you start eye-balling someone... and taking an interest, are you thinking "Wow, they'd make a great spouse!"... or are you thinking you'd like to drive that around the block a time or two to see how it rides? Either way, your wanting what you want.. and they are wanting something too. Maybe it's different or maybe it's the same.
If and only if it were all about sex, then we could be like the birds... or dogs... and just mate as opportunity allowed. But there are things about it that make us higher-level beings, that we enjoy more than just the physical. Maybe it's their smell or the way they look. Might be their accent or the peculiar habits they exhibit. And when you go home at the end of the day and are laying alone in the bed, you stop and think back on them... and realize that you might be thinking about them... and not just for sex. Sure, we still want and need it. But we can be humane about getting those things we desire.
And sometimes those preoccupations are so complex that you simply don't get to know one another in a few dates or within a few months even. Not really for discussion, but ask yourself what your preoccupations might be?
